I have a theory as to why there are so many wars between countries, so much drama within families, and so little love in our local communities. My theory is that peace has a price. If you and I truly want to live in peace with each other, we both need to pay a hard-to-swallow price—our own desires.
Think of all the wars that erupt when two parties both prioritize “me first.” Two preschoolers both want the same plastic dump truck. Two sisters both want to take the first shower. Two brothers both want their idea for how to care for their mother. Two significant others want the other to apologize first. Two nations both want the same land. Pick any topic—a church budget, where the dishes go after dinner, how often spouses are intimate—and “me first” will make a mess.
This actually isn’t my original theory. Jesus’ half brother James said it first: “What causes fights and quarrels among you? Don’t they come from your desires that battle within you?” (James 4:1).
Today I want you to think about any less than peaceful relationships in your life. Is part of the problem your own desires to get what you want? Take some time to talk it over with God, asking him for forgiveness for your sins as well as the power to pay the price for peace. The price isn’t cheap, but seeking peace is always worth it.