You’ve probably heard the saying that goes something like this: “You are the sum total of the five people you spend the most time with.” It’s basically a modern version of Proverbs 13:20: “Walk with the wise and become wise, for a companion of fools suffers harm.”
You will become like the people you hang out with, for better or worse. Yeah, you can blame your friends for your screwups, but maybe you need to blame yourself for hanging around those friends in the first place.
Remember when you were a kid and your parents had strong opinions about the friends who were “bad news”? Well, now you’re an adult—you get to choose your friends on your own, no parental opinions involved. Just remember that there are consequences to those choices. Do you want friends who will cause you to compromise your values or friends who will strengthen your values? Do you want friends who will make you timid about bringing faith into a conversation or friends who challenge your faith and its presence in your life? Do you want friends who will make it easy for you to stray from God or friends who won’t allow you to stray?
Don’t be shy in asking God for help in surrounding yourself with friends who will make you wise in his ways. And a little hint about the five people you spend the majority of your time with: Make Jesus one of those five people.