Grief: Taking That First Step Despite the Pain

By Pastor Caleb Kurbis

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Grief is a profound journey, one that leaves an indelible mark on your heart. When a loved one departs, it feels as though a part of you goes with them. In the midst of this pain, you may experience what can be likened to a “phantom pain” — a lingering ache for something that’s no longer there. This grief manifests in myriad ways, echoing in your heart long after the loss. Yet, even in this darkness, there is hope and healing.

The Phantom Pain of Grief

Imagine the sensation of pain in a limb that no longer exists. It sounds paradoxical, yet this is the experience of those who have lost a loved one. The heartache persists, not bound by the physical absence of the person. You might find yourself speaking to them, expecting them to be there when you turn around, only to be met with emptiness. This “phantom pain” is a real symptom of grief that many endure, serving as a poignant reminder of what once was.

The Unchanging Nature of Grief

Grief is a transformation, one that lingers and shapes your journey forward. It’s worth acknowledging that there isn’t a magical moment when you simply “get over it.” As one grieving man wisely shared, “You never get over it; you just learn to better live through it.” This understanding allows you to acknowledge your pain while also finding ways to navigate through it. Grief changes you, but it doesn’t have to define your entire being.

Finding Purpose in Small Steps

When enveloped in grief, the thought of moving forward can be overwhelming. Yet, taking those first steps is crucial. It might be as simple as brushing your teeth or getting out of bed. These small acts are significant victories in the journey through grief. One day, one task, one step at a time, you begin to find a sense of purpose again. It’s not about monumental leaps but rather about the courage to begin anew, even when the pain feels insurmountable.

God’s Presence in the Valley

In the Old Testament, we find the comforting words of Psalm 23, where David speaks of the Lord as his shepherd. The imagery of walking through the “darkest valley” resonates deeply with the experience of grief. In these times, God is not a distant figure but a near and present comforter. “You are with me,” David declares, highlighting the intimate support God provides. This promise is for you as well; you are not alone in your grief. God walks with you, guiding you through each step.

Embracing God’s Eternal Comfort

Amidst grief, remember that God’s love for you transcends time. The promise of eternal life through Jesus Christ assures you of His unwavering presence. When the path ahead seems daunting, trust that God will never leave your side. He is your shepherd, offering comfort and strength as you take each step forward. Lean into His grace, and let His love be the balm for your wounded heart.

As you navigate the journey of grief, know that you are not alone. God’s presence is a constant, guiding you through the valleys and leading you to a place of peace and healing. Take that first step, no matter how small, and trust in His unfailing love.

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About the Author

Pastor Caleb Kurbis

Caleb Kurbis serves as pastor in Asheville, North Carolina. Caleb and his wife, Sarah, have four children (three boys and one girl) and love sharing the gospel in the Western North Carolina mountains. “The LORD is my light and my salvation—whom shall I fear? The LORD is the stronghold of my life—of whom shall I be afraid? I remain confident of this: I will see the goodness of the LORD in the land of the living. Wait for the LORD; be strong and take heart and wait for the LORD” (Psalm 27:1,2,13,14).

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